NO, we are not dead, yet, but plan to be sometime in the future. Have you thought about your arrangements for when this happens? We have! We have no desire to have a traditional funeral service or the' hoopla' that follows. If our family is to grieve, it can be done in private. All we want is to be cremated and buried or scattered, in the woods, someplace pristine and untouched by development. We do not want a 'wake' or funeral or gathering afterwards. We want to be remembered for who we were at the time of 'living'.
When a person is alive is the time for visiting, not after they have died. We have gone to many a funerals where someone who hasn't seen the person in decades, all of a sudden show themselves and put on a big 'show' for all to see. Friendship and familyship are to be shared while the person is alive, not after they are gone. Show your feelings now, not later!
Most of the time people feel obligated or feel it is their duty to show themselves at a funeral. For who? Support for the living! You can still support them, at home, by calling or dropping over to visit. Respect for the dead? If you didn't visit me when I was alive, how much good will it do after I'm dead? You can still pray for my soul in your own surroundings. Celebrate the passing! No, you can celebrate my passing in your own way in the privacy of your own surroundings and you can say anything you please and dress anyway you like. I won't mind!
Don't let tears of regrets fall upon my ashes...I won't be there!
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I believe funerals are to be a happy time – we are finally out of the rat race and going home to be with our Father. I too choose to be cremated since it was the least expensive than I want to be scattered in the woods under God’s creation.
As for the hoopla, it is up the family but I requested to make it a joyful one. I told my son to pour me a drink – he answered with “can it be filtered first”.
Also said not to bring me flowers, since he never did well I was alive. That I would reach right up and grab him --- think he got the message --- no.
It would be nice to hear people say what you meant to them BEFORE you pass away.
Going to a funeral is paying respect to the family, and saying goodbye to your love one. But only if you have stayed in touch, to many people like you say just show up – I think for the free food and drinks, having no respect. I rarely go for I choose to remember them alive, only go when the family needs my support to get them over the hump and into positive thinking.
You made a good point – but know, my friend I will be there if needed, or I will be smoking your last cigarette and toasting you a drink and letting it filtering through.
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